What does it actually take to create thriving relationships? Below are seven tools that support connected, authentic, sustainable relationships. You’ll learn specific tips for implementing these tools in all types of relationships, from the bedroom to the boardroom. For more context on each of these tools, including specific examples of each, check out our latest podcast episode below.

Here are 7 tools that you need for thriving relationships:

1. Identify and Communicate Your Needs and Boundaries

Yes: I’m a broken record with this one. Being clear with yourself and others about your needs and boundaries is the cornerstone to healthy relationships.

2. Be Willing to Not be “Right”

If you insist that your way is the “right” way, that means the other person is wrong. In your experience, how do people tend to react when they are made wrong? In my experience: it’s not great for the relationship.

3. Distinguish Fact from Interpretation

This is one of the most valuable tools I know. There are objective, unarguable facts, and then there is the narrative that we create about those facts, based on our own biases, opinions, and contexts. When we can learn to distinguish fact from interpretation, we create more room for clear communication, and less chance for assumptions.

4. Be Willing to View “Problems” as Opportunities

If you see a problem, there’s something wrong that needs to be fixed. If you see an opportunity, there’s space for options, agency, creativity, and collaboration.

5. Practice Empathy

When you are open to seeing the world through another person’s eyes, the opportunity for connection and collaboration sky rockets. 

6. Stop Playing the Blame Game

… because when you’re hell bent on blaming another person, no one wins. 

7. Take Responsibility

This is a huge growth edge for lots of us. It can be really confronting to take ownership for our contribution to misses and gaps. Keep in mind that taking responsibility is NOT the same as shifting the blame to ourselves. We’re not playing the blame game anymore, remember?

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