On a coaching call last week, a client and I were sifting through the difference between acceptance and resignation.

On the surface, they may look the same: we have let go of trying to change something that is beyond our control. On the inside, however, resignation and acceptance are a wholly different experience.

So, what’s the difference in resignation and acceptance?

When we are in a state of resignation, we feel powerless and hopeless. Resignation often contains resentment, righteousness, or blame. Resignation can feel heavy, like a burden. It’s a disempowered and passive state of being.

Acceptance, on the other hand, is an active, empowered state of being. It’s an ongoing choice to commit and recommit to our our well-being. Like brushing our teeth, it requires repetition. Acceptance requires us to step outside of righteousness, and choose serenity. Acceptance is NOT necessarily the same as condoning or approving. Once we choose acceptance, we can then take action that aligns with our values and needs. 

This concept can be summed up by the “serenity prayer,” a mantra I learned from my previous life working as a clinician in a substance abuse treatment program.

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

I invite you to consider where you may be practicing resignation in your life. What possibilities could you open up by shifting into acceptance?

Please reach out if this concept resonates with you. Also reach out if it triggers you! I’m happy to chat with you about either.